YES! It is difficult to say "NO" . At least that is the case with me , or shall I say , that was the case with me.
I always found it very difficult to say no when anyone asked me to do anything. I thought saying no would be rude. I really don’t know why it was so difficult for me ,for so many years ,because now I can easily do it ;) .If anyone asks me anything , willing or not willing , with a smile I would say yes and then put myself into difficulty.I guess lot of people might face the same problem.
But gradually , I have realized that it is better and more practical to say no when the thing asked is out of our scope , or when we are not at all willing to do that favor, help or any commitment that is asked of us. Guess this is one of the many lessons that I have learnt out of my experiences in life ;) . It is not that I have totally overcome this weakness of not saying no. I still find it difficult with my family and close friends. But to an extent , I have improved. I am much much better than what I was few years back :)
Now , in any situation , when anything is asked of me , I think twice before saying yes to it. I have realized that it is good for me and the other person as well. Saying yes , and then struggling to do whatever is asked of , and then the end results might not be as expected. So , in first case itself if we had said no , other person would plan something else and results might be much better. One more hazard of saying yes always is , others' expectations from us is always high . They get so used to getting an yes from us that , sometimes they don’t even bother to ask us ;)
So , I will conclude saying that whenever anyone asks anything from us , lets think practically and not emotionally before saying yes or no.
This will surely make things much clearer on either side and avoid any future complications ;)
10 comments:
Philosophy chennagide :) ... But in case you say "YES" and still cant keep the promise, you should atleast give valid excuses :).. You know who to contact if help is needed :)..
I hear this a lot. Learn to say no,learn to say no. But I've never learnt to say no and I've never had any problems with it so far. How much chance do you get to be nice/help people in your everyday life sitting in a cubicle (most of the readers)? As long as ppl don't run all over you,I think its fine to say "Yes" and spread a little good feeling.And you get to learn new things too when you help others :)
Saying No,no means you are lazy ;)
nice post.. its true with many ppl..
cant say No, so saying yes and making the other person wait n wait n wait is not good. So better to tell No n not to commit if its not possible..
Guess u started this first in office ;)
Cheers,
Sadh :)
@pav: oh ya!...come again! :p....
@rash: ya ya...listening to the disapoointe voice or confronting the disappointed face is even more morose to us..than to them though! ;p
but ya..guess its necessary to b straightforward n allow urself a lot less complications later! :p
This doesn't hold good when it comes to me, I guess.. You have always been at ease, saying no to me! :X :D
@John : Ya ya the great excuse master :P :D
@Pavan : hmm I'll catch you when you say no the next time ;)
@Sadhana : not started in office , started much before that :D
@Ashu : exactly my view ;)
@Yashu : han! thats coz ur demands are unreasonable :P :D
Badly i have "yes to all" Problem.Some times i was in a deep trouble.I need to learn to say "no". Depending on the circumstances.
Thank God, you hadn't learnt to say "no" when in college, especially during exams.. :)
the new look of ur blog feels awesome! :)
yes Ashu , thanks to cool templates available in blogger.com :)
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